Do you dread having the conversation about aged care with your elderly parents? Knowing how to bring up the topic can be challenging, especially if you’re concerned about resistance. The “aged care talk” requires sensitive, as you want your parents to feel cared for, not like a burden.
When considering aged care, facilities like Menarock LIFE Aged Care provide a supportive and compassionate environment. There might be resistance from your parents or family members but it’s essential to address their needs with understanding and patience.
Tips on How to Talk About Aged Care with Your Parents
We have carefully curated a list that may help overcome the awkwardness and have this important conversation with your elderly parents.
- Don’t wait for the perfect time
Waiting for the “perfect” moment to talk about aged care may never come. Instead, take the initiative to have the conversation early. Do your diligent research on the available care options, present the facts calmly and focus on how this can benefit your parents. Take a deep breath and go ahead to have that conversation. - Be sensitive and kind
This conversation can be emotional for your parents. They may feel angry, disappointed and even sad. Approach the discussion with empathy, be understanding of their concerns and offer reassurance. Show that your intentions are rooted in care and love. - Involve Them in the Decision-Making Process
While you may have initiated the conversation, it’s important to give your parents a chance to have their say and decide if they are in support. Make the discussion collaborative by encouraging them to voice any opinions, preferences and concerns. Ensure that they feel respected and are part of the decision-making process. - Take It Slow, One Step at A Time
It’s natural for parents to take some time to warm up and adjust to the idea of aged care. Gently start by introducing the topic slowly and revisit when necessary. Allow them some time and space to think and reconsider and most importantly, don’t put pressure on them to decide too quickly. Afterall, entering aged care is a big decision! - Get Everyone Involved
This discussion does not need to be a solo project. Involve trusted family members or people from your support network in this conversation. Their support can help reassure your parents and make the process more comfortable. A united front can also show that the decision is in their best interest. - Choose The Right Setting
Picking the right setting for this conversation may help ease you into bringing the topic up. A calm and relaxed environment encourages open and honest communication. - Clearly Communicate Your Reasons
Be transparent about why you think aged care is the right step for your parents. Highlight how it can benefit their situation in terms of professional care, social activities and safety. Help them understand that this decision is about the betterment of their wellbeing. - Give Them to Think
After the conversation, give your parents some space and time to reflect on the points you’ve presented. Avoid pressuring them for an immediate decision and allow them to consider their options. - Keep Your Parents Involved Throughout the Process
If your parents are receptive to the idea of exploring aged care, keep them involved in every step of the process. Bring them on tours of the aged care homes you visit and let them participate in choosing the right one for their needs.
Know What to Expect When Discussing Aged Care
- Opposition
Your parents or even family members may initially resist the idea of transitioning into aged care, seeing it as a loss of independence. Remain clam and address their concerns while highlighting the practical benefits - Indifference Due to Fear
Fear of the unknown may cause your parents to ignore and avoid the conversation. Be gracious and give them time to overcome this fear through knowledge so they can make an informed decision. Reschedule the talk if necessary. - Emotional Reactions
It is completely normal for your parents to have emotional reactions like sadness or tears. Reassure your parents that the decision comes from a place of love and care and support them as they process the idea. - Anger
Your parents may feel hurt or angry about the suggestion of aged care, seeing it as a sign of abandonment. Remain patient and continue to offer support while they work through their feelings. - Acceptance
With time, your parents may come to accept the idea of aged care and understand its benefits. Remember to affirm their decision and offer continuous support as they adjust to this new phase in their lives.
How We Can Support You Through This Journey
The decision to move your parents into aged care is never easy but it’s an important conversation that should start early. Approach the discussion with empathy and involving your parents in the decision-making process can help ease the transition.
At Menarock LIFE Aged Care, we offer 12 homes across Victoria, New South Wales and Tasmania with a dedicated team providing exceptional care. To learn more about how we can support your family, contact us at enquiries@menarocklife.com.au or call us at 1300 096 971.
